In his “Never Give In” speech in 1941, Winston Churchill stated,
Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never–in nothing, great or small, large or petty–never give in, except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.
If there’s one thing I hope to pass on to my children, it is the quality of persistence. There are other qualities that I hope to pass on as well, including love, compassion, kindness, and the many virtuous qualities embodied and demonstrated by the great spiritual and political leaders in recent and distant history. Jesus, Mohandas Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Abraham Lincoln, and Mother Theresa come to mind as some of the great people who walked this planet and demonstrated basic human goodness, as well as greatness and Divine power. And if I’m successful in this life, I’ll demonstrate some of their qualities in the way I live this life, and my kids will pick up on that, remember it, and live their lives differently. But if there is one single quality I think kids and all young people need first more than anything else, it is that quality of persistence. And the quality of persistence is what allows us to never give up. It is about discipline.
It has been said by Paramhansa Yogananda that “A saint is a sinner that never gave up.” On the spiritual path one needs to develop and demonstrate great persistence and a firm resolve. There are so many obstacles that rise before us in life especially when we are trying to break out of the mold and rise to a more noble, good, just, ethical, and compassionate way of living. Often when we’re in a hurry or feeling threatened by a situation, it is easier to take the path of least resistance which means cutting corners and taking the easy way out. I try to view challenges, all difficult things in life, as lessons and opportunities to grow. Hard times don’t make it easy to see things this way at first. But after periods of reflection and genral downtime, I’ve always come around to discovering a great lesson and teaching hidden within the difficult experience I was moving through. Once I see that lesson, things begin to improve and pretty soon I am glad for the experience because without it, how would I have learned what I just learned?
Recently I had to take a vehicle into the auto shop. It was making one of those funny noises and I suspected something was wrong with the front suspension. An hour after I dropped it off with the mechanic, he calls me back. “You sitting down?” he said. “Yeah” I mumbled. And of course I know he’s getting me ready for some bad news and a big expense. He broke it all down and said it would be around $860 parts and labor to fix it. Now normally I just tell him to go ahead and fix it but we’ve never had a bill that big. I stopped by the auto shop, got the estimate, paid a diagnostic fee of $36 bucks, and drove one block down to an auto parts shop. I asked them what it would cost to order these two struts, and a sway bar link kit. To my surprise, they had everything I needed and I saved $341. All for one hour’s work. I guess this is why auto mechanics in general get such a bad reputation, because, hmm… some of them really deserve it?
Of course I won’t be going back to that mechanic anymore. The auto parts guy that helped me also told me about his preferred mechanic up the road who does good work for a very fair price. And he installs the parts you bring in without a fuss.
After this, I said to myself, Dang that felt good. And treated myself to an iced tea to celebrate. How many times have I saved $341 dollars with just an hour’s work? Like, never! But my bigger point is, challenges can be either good or bad depending on how you interpret or perceive them. See only bad, and you get bad results. See the good (the lesson, the teaching, the opportunity) and you get good results. You may not always get a good material result. I did get a good material result this time. It may be that you lose out in the material or financial sense, but always if you look for and find the good in a situation, you will get something good psychologically and spiritually. And that is pretty great.
So I have to say that I’m glad this mechanic overcharged me. I really am, and this is no exaggeration. Here’s why. I’m going to tell so many people about this I figure I’ll easily save a good dozen people from making the same mistake. Heck, maybe more than a dozen. But if I’d never gone through this, I wouldn’t be able to relate the story to others with any kind of enthusiasm. It would’ve been someone else’s story and that’s not nearly as fun as sharing your own experience with someone. So challenges are a good thing. And that is why we should always welcome adversity when it comes.
Without the quality of persistence, these are all just a set of nice ideas and they form a good philosophy to talk with a friend at the cafe on a Saturday morning over coffee. But with persistence, discipline, and will power, these are guiding principles: and truly, then, all challenges — and I mean all challenges — become teachings, lessons and opportunities to grow.
Years ago, a teacher of mine showed me the truth of this teaching and it has never failed me. If you pass on one thing to your kids and other young people you know, show them the truth of this: that with persistence and a habit of finding the good in all things, they will go far in life. Not only will they enjoy life more, they’ll undoubtedly help others too by example. And what is the best way to teach our children and other young people? It is by example as well.